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Relapse Prevention

By |2018-08-14T15:29:18+00:00August 12th, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: |

Addiction is a life-long disease, and without a simple cure there is bound to be countless difficulties that individuals face after they have completed treatment. There is no doubt that completing treatment is a victory in itself that takes great strength, but remaining on the path of sobriety requires continuous work and dedication.

Studies have shown that it is important for those who have participated in an addiction treatment program to also engage in follow-up services once their program has come to an end. Thankfully, there are an array of support services available, that when taken advantage of have the best chance of maintaining sobriety long-term. However, many individuals still face temptation even after recovery. Keep reading to learn more about the warning signs of relapse:

Three Stages of Relapse

Relapsing is not just about a single event, it can begin weeks to months before the actual act takes place. No recovering addict or alcoholic wants to relapse, but many setbacks can lead them to that point. The goal of treatment is to help individuals recognize what to look for in the early stages, so that prevention is most possible. These stages of relapse are as follows:

  • Emotional
  • Mental
  • Physical

During emotional relapse the addict is not actually considering using, but the person’s behavior and emotions are quietly setting them up for future relapse. In this stage the addict isolates himself, isn’t participating or sharing his feelings in recovery groups, and is exhibiting poor self-care. If this unhealthy pattern continues, it will begin to set the stage for the next phase of relapse.

As a response to the negative emotional feelings listed above, an addict begins to enter the mental stage of relapse. Part of them wants to use again, while the other part wants nothing to do with it. There is a war going on in this person’s mind that reminds him of what it felt like to use, and they start to minimizing the addiction to make it seem okay again. Here is also where the cravings begin, as the addict spends more time glamorizing the positives of their past addiction. If the addict in recovery continues to entertain these thoughts without intervention, a physical relapse is bound to take place next.

There is Hope at Revival

It is important to understand that relapsing does not mean that one has failed, but should be considered a normal part of life-long addiction recovery. This does not give excuse or permission to relapse, but serves as an encouragement to seek continued help.

As an individual learns to recognize the stages of relapse, pursuing quality prevention services should be the next step. Revival Recovery Services offers services that cover all aspects of recovery and the healing process. At Revival, the individual battles addiction by confronting root causes of pain, revealing what might be fueling their addiction. Revival’s success rate is high because we incorporate faith and spiritual development into your treatment plan. We believe that what you believe about God greatly influences your decisions, and we want to help you answer some of life’s tough questions as well as develop a greater understanding of God’s will for your life. Here are some other reasons Revival might be the right fit for you:

Support and Empathy from Others: It is much easier to open up and discuss issues in one’s life when there are others in the same situation. At Revival, you don’t have to go through it alone. Healing takes place when we are in relationship with others.

Location Says it All: An individual struggling with addiction needs to leave unsafe, toxic environments that may lead to relapse. Our comfortable and serene facility is designed to be a safe place for you no matter where you are at in your sobriety journey.

Rehab is more than a 30-90 day journey; it is a lifetime commitment to remain sober. To do this takes more than just wanting to stop a negative behavior. Making the decision to stay in recovery after treatment can be the start of the rest of your life as a clean and sober individual. Choose to heal in an environment where there are others just like you. At Revival, you will always be treated as an individual, not a failure.

Codependency, Treatment, And What Helps

By |2018-08-14T15:18:05+00:00August 11th, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: |

The term “codependency” can mean different things, but we think it can be best defined as “An emotional disorder that can cause a person to ignore their own needs to fulfill the needs of others.” A traditional example of this could be a wife enabling her abusive husband to continue to drink so that she can take care of him and avoid conflict. Additionally, the term codependency can also be used to describe individuals in many kinds of dysfunctional relationships, not just ones dealing chemical dependency.

Studies over the past ten years have shown that the emotional and behavioral condition of codependency can greatly affect an individual’s ability to have mutually satisfying and healthy relationships. This is because unhealthy, codependent relationships do not have the communication skills to talk through things, but instead influence individuals to repress their emotions, disregard their own needs, and simply become “survivors” who believe they are deserving of mistreatment.

Codependent people may mean well, but the problem becomes clear when caretaking of others emotions becomes compulsive and desperate. The enjoyment of the relationship for a codependent person with low self-esteem is founded upon the feeling of “being needed” by the other person(s), not because of mutual love or respect.

Codependent Tendencies

The first step in changing behavior is to understand it. Codependency is a learned trait, usually from critical early childhood relationships. Thankfully, it is possible to recognize the role that you play in allowing the cycle to continue. Starting now, here are some questions to ask yourself to see if your relationships involve codependency:

  1. Do you stay quiet to avoid arguments?
  2. Do you constantly worry about others’ opinions of you?
  3. Do you think people in your life would be able to survive without your constant efforts?
  4. Do you have trouble saying “no” when others ask something of you?
  5. Do you feel a sense of purpose after making extreme sacrifices to satisfy others’ needs?

Treatment

The bottom line is: A person with codependency tendencies is suffering from a mental illness. If the disorder continues unaddressed, codependent individuals can tend to turn to other unhealthy behaviors as they try to cope. The good news is that this mental illness is not irreversible. Individuals can expect to recover and change their destructive thoughts and behaviors, starting with ongoing treatment by a trained professional. The following are a few valuable tools that individuals will learn while involved in a safe, Christian based program such as Revival Recovery Services.

Identify Root of Destructive Behavior

Individuals must explore early childhood experiences to find the root causes that may have influenced a codependent belief set. It is only by identifying these issues and how they influence current destructive patterns can one start to heal from them.

Move From People-Pleasing to Healthy Assertiveness

Change has to first start from within. Treatment should provide practical advice on how to become less of a people-pleaser and more in touch with asserting one’s own feelings/desires. An important aspect of this is learning how to say “no” without fear of repercussions.

Accept Nothing Less Than Respect From Your Relationships

We teach other people how to treat us. When you truly know your self-worth, you will learn not to minimize or overlook abusive behavior from others. In therapy (group or individual) you will start to understand your God-given value, and begin to learn what it means to be kind to yourself.

Maybe you have heard of these concepts before, or maybe this is all new to you. No matter where you have come from or how bad the situation is, you can decide today to pursue a new, healthy relationship with God and yourself that in turn pours out into every other relationship.

It is time to seek wholeness and make time for yourself – you are worth it!

Is Anger Management For You?

By |2018-08-14T15:10:15+00:00August 10th, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: |

Good news! Anger is a natural human emotion. We have all experienced situations where our anger has reared its’ ugly head in some way. However, the majority of us are able to calm ourselves down before getting too much out of control. Sadly, there are others who suffer with the inability to process their anger in a healthy way, allowing minor irritations to send them into a full-fledged rage. If your response to life’s inconveniences is reckless or violent, putting yourself and others in potential harm, anger management might be the next best option for you.

You also might benefit from anger management if you:

  • Are often in trouble with the law
  • Are often involved in fights and arguments with people around you
  • Have hit a spouse or child
  • Have threatened violence against others
  • Have a tendency to break things during an angry outburst

Your Journey To Peace

Admitting that you might have an anger problem is half the battle. You’ve begun to recognize how anger has negatively affected your relationships and your heath, so now it’s time to take back control. Next, you’ll just have to show up to classes and participate. Participation is critical to your victory. Some things you will discover on your journey:

  • Anger is often a cover-up for other feelings such as deep hurt caused from childhood trauma. It’s time to figure out what other emotions you might be feeling under that anger and why. This will be painful, but this pain is a necessary part to gaining freedom.
  • Recognize and avoid triggers. While you are in recovery, it is okay to remove yourself from situations or relationships that bring out the worst in you.
  • Recognize the warning signs of an angry outburst, and practice some self-soothing tactics such as exercising, self check-ins, meditation, or prayer in order to give you a better sense of control over your anger in any situation.
  • And most importantly, learn to choose healthier ways to express your anger.

You won’t get it perfect every time, but as you start putting what you’ve learned into practice you will began to think about things differently, no longer allowing situations or circumstances to control you.

Revival Recovery Services

At Revival, we long to see you free from a life of anger. We’ve seen anger management treatment (along with the power of Jesus) change lives, restore self-worth, repair families and marriages, positively influence careers, and greatly improve overall communication.

If you find yourself struggling with anger issues, there is no doubt that anger management treatment is effective. Before you let your anger get out of control, seek help now so that you and your loved ones can lead a healthier life from now onward.

Graduation!!!!

By |2018-08-15T20:24:42+00:00July 5th, 2018|Categories: Fellowship Activities|

I arrived at Revival as a lost soul, broken and ashamed. I didn’t care about anything or anyone. My mind was all about getting drugs and getting high. At Revival I experienced happiness towards myself and what life has to offer. Revival help me find Jesus Christ that he is my Lord and Savior. Revival meets you at your worst, with kindness and love. Something I never experience in my life. After extending my treatment to 90-days i now feel equipped to take on life challenges with a strong support group with my family and Revival. I recommend this place if you are struggling with lies and darkness, and have no (Hope “Hold-On-Pain-Ends”) There is a way out and Revival can help you!

Testimonial from Alfred E.

By |2018-08-16T07:31:21+00:00July 5th, 2018|Categories: Testimonials|

“I arrived at Revival as a lost soul, broken and ashamed. I didn’t care about anything or anyone. My mind was all about getting drugs and getting high.”

Alfred E.

Graduation Jeff W.

By |2018-08-15T20:30:26+00:00July 1st, 2018|Categories: Fellowship Activities|

Revival was a blessing from God that I am truly grateful for! I had enough of my life as an addict and tried to quit many times on my own with no success. I asked my wife to find me a place to get help and she said there was a faith based program that was local and I thought it sounded good. This treatment center was more than just a good place to get sober. The fact that it is Faith based is what “saved” me and I am forever grateful to the counselors and client that helped me understand what it really meant to accept Christ as my Savior. With this knowledge I am starting a new life with God free of the crippling affects of addiction. I strongly suggest anyone considering getting help do so before it gets worse. I can’t say it strongly enough, Revival changed my life!

Spirit West Coast – Concert / Worship

By |2018-08-15T20:17:54+00:00June 23rd, 2018|Categories: Fellowship Activities|

Saturday night, This is a positive way to spend with family and friends. Good music, good conversation and it’s all clean and sober! Learning to live sober.

Total Men’s Conference “Men of Steel”

By |2018-08-15T20:11:07+00:00June 15th, 2018|Categories: Fellowship Activities|

A dynamic event that includes – teachings of “A spiritual mans mindset and what causes us to fall off our path to righteousness. “ Learning great coping skills to utilize when things get rough.

Accelerate Men’s Conference

By |2018-08-14T17:24:17+00:00May 4th, 2018|Categories: Fellowship Activities|

Topics include , improving fatherhood , Marriage and parenthood. This is positive fuel for the soul. Never stop growing. Addiction will try to keep you in a pit of darkness.

Fishers of Men!

By |2018-08-14T17:18:07+00:00April 28th, 2018|Categories: Fellowship Activities|

Fun in the sun – always a great time to bond and share life together. The enemy will lie to you and say “You are alone in the addiction battle”. Your are NOT alone!